Perfection - Is It Really The Ideal State?
Since this is our first real post, we'll show you how it's gonna be done. First a generalization, next comments from yours truly and afterward a statement to see if we can agree on a specific outcome and then finally we'll ask to see what you guys think! After all, all we're doing is giving our opinions so why not give yours as well! So Here We Go!
Do you believe in Perfection? Do you think there is something out in this world that is the way it should be? I don't mean right now but over time. It can't change, it cant evolve. It stays the same and everyone would know its perfection?
Do you believe in Perfection? Do you think there is something out in this world that is the way it should be? I don't mean right now but over time. It can't change, it cant evolve. It stays the same and everyone would know its perfection?
Perfection: The quality or state of being perfect: such as freedom from fault or defect: Flawlessness
So tell me, do you believe that this is true or false?
Nash's Perspective:
So this one idea or state is a big thing for me. In my generation, it pops up everywhere from celebs to individuality and even in our love lives (Except I don't have one of those 😅). Do I believe in perfection? Nope! Why? Well, that's easy for me. To be perfect or have a perfect object whether that be a human you idolize or an outfit or even a specific color you have (you get the point), you have to believe that, that "thing" can't evolve, change, adapt or grow. This I can not stress enough when it comes to my generation. We as individuals are continually striving to become perfect, whether it be the idea we have in our head or the idea of someone we love. It's exhausting to see so many people lose hope because they're striving for an impossible goal.
Don't get me wrong, striving for goals, I am all here for! Alyssa and I are extremely goal oriented but striving for perfection isn't exactly the goal we're trying to reach. We as humans, fat shame, skinny shame, feel bad for ugly, envy the beautiful and yet we never realize its just something to grow and work towards. Take love for instance. It's something I can easily elaborate on. 1. If I wanted someone perfect I not only am giving off an expectation that can't be achieved by anyone but I also am giving myself a delusional hope that someone will meet my exact requirements of a boyfriend. How is that fair? I know I'm not perfect, So why should he be? 2. Perfection means I think the world owes me for living the life I have lived. So should I expect a 6ft, brown haired, blue eyed, a hunk of a man who loves to play video games and wants a million corgis and is the perfect father to just pop out of thin air? If that could happen then not only would I be a god but I would be the coolest gay ever! See? Reading that sounds ridiculous. I sound entitled! I'm not. I do want someone, but I want someone I can grow with. Someone that'll want me when I'm at my lowest and my highest. One that will show me what faults I should work on and giving opinions that aren't even close to mine. How am I suppose to learn and adapt in a world of constant change if I'm not challenged? I don't want someone who is perfect, I want someone who is challenging. I want someone who is able to allow me to strive beside them to become a better man, not only for myself or for him but for a world that I can show the same to. A world where I can enact change and not expect to be served with a silver spoon.
Imperfections are how we learn and adapt. Faults are the reason we grow into having personalities. Would you want to talk to someone without a personality? Yes - Wow so what, you want a slave? No - Of course not because secretly every individual wants to be challenged. Wants to know they can survive in a continually changing world. There's a reason its called survival of the fittest. I don't know about you, but I'm here to change and become better than the person I left in yesterday. How about you Sis?
Alyssa's Perspective:
Okay, so this is a huge idea in today's society that doesn't actually have a place. I don't believe in the idea of perfection based on the fact of progression. In my eyes, perfection is an entity that society has placed in our minds as something we as humans need to achieve in our lives to be happy. In a way, perfection can be placed in many aspects of our lives as in, how you see yourself, how you see others and how others see you. As Nash stated, we judge, we have opinions, we have differences, and we can't help but compare ourselves to others in the community. This idea creates insecurities and jealousy due to so many people trying to reach the idea of a perfect life. Perfection is based on the idea of putting forth no effort and just being 'perfect,' which in reality isn't fair nor is it true. If we think of perfection in the eyes of a relationship, it cant be achieved, and if it does is it really 'perfect'? In a healthy relationship, one is supposed to be there for the other one in all situations and learn and grow together as a whole. If someone has a relationship where its considered 'perfect' with no sort of hardships, I find it hard to believe that both people are completely and emotionally committed.
Something I strongly believe in is that for one to succeed, they must work for it, how do you learn if it is everything you want is just given to you? My answer is you don't, in the world where one has achieved perfection means that they no longer move socially, economically or mentally from that mental state which again supports my idea that perfection isn't and shouldn't be achieved. Maybe it's me being the kind of person that constantly wants to grow, but I don't think I would ever want to reach society's 'perfection.'
Consensus:
Society might not be the reason to blame, but it has helped in adding the idea of perfection into our heads. Granted we all have to take the blame as well. A community, generation or even a race can't have a conclusion on a specific idea without all thinking about it from time to time. Perfection at least in our eyes isn't real. It's an insecurity that has been hidden behind a tiny voice saying that we aren't enough or that we are too good for the person next to us. So here's what we think should happen. Every time that tiny voice pops in your head whether it be in the dressing room in front of that mirror or when you see someone that's laughing more than you or even when you are just in your car and thinking alone. Shut. It. Off. Listen to these words right now. NO. ONE. IS. PERFECT. Those imperfections are what makes you, you. Bring that high and mighty ego down, look in the mirror and say "I am enough" and just live your life how you want it. Not what you think someone will want it. Let them live their life, and you live yours. I mean, after all, It Just Be like That!
Now that you know what our perspectives are, how about we hear what y'alls are? We are only two people on a planet with over 7 Billion humans. So let's hear y'alls perspectives! While Y'all are doing that, you could give us ideas to talk about too, doesn't matter what it is. If you have an opinion on it. I can guarantee so do we so, let those voices be heard!
Nash's Perspective:
So this one idea or state is a big thing for me. In my generation, it pops up everywhere from celebs to individuality and even in our love lives (Except I don't have one of those 😅). Do I believe in perfection? Nope! Why? Well, that's easy for me. To be perfect or have a perfect object whether that be a human you idolize or an outfit or even a specific color you have (you get the point), you have to believe that, that "thing" can't evolve, change, adapt or grow. This I can not stress enough when it comes to my generation. We as individuals are continually striving to become perfect, whether it be the idea we have in our head or the idea of someone we love. It's exhausting to see so many people lose hope because they're striving for an impossible goal.
Don't get me wrong, striving for goals, I am all here for! Alyssa and I are extremely goal oriented but striving for perfection isn't exactly the goal we're trying to reach. We as humans, fat shame, skinny shame, feel bad for ugly, envy the beautiful and yet we never realize its just something to grow and work towards. Take love for instance. It's something I can easily elaborate on. 1. If I wanted someone perfect I not only am giving off an expectation that can't be achieved by anyone but I also am giving myself a delusional hope that someone will meet my exact requirements of a boyfriend. How is that fair? I know I'm not perfect, So why should he be? 2. Perfection means I think the world owes me for living the life I have lived. So should I expect a 6ft, brown haired, blue eyed, a hunk of a man who loves to play video games and wants a million corgis and is the perfect father to just pop out of thin air? If that could happen then not only would I be a god but I would be the coolest gay ever! See? Reading that sounds ridiculous. I sound entitled! I'm not. I do want someone, but I want someone I can grow with. Someone that'll want me when I'm at my lowest and my highest. One that will show me what faults I should work on and giving opinions that aren't even close to mine. How am I suppose to learn and adapt in a world of constant change if I'm not challenged? I don't want someone who is perfect, I want someone who is challenging. I want someone who is able to allow me to strive beside them to become a better man, not only for myself or for him but for a world that I can show the same to. A world where I can enact change and not expect to be served with a silver spoon.
Imperfections are how we learn and adapt. Faults are the reason we grow into having personalities. Would you want to talk to someone without a personality? Yes - Wow so what, you want a slave? No - Of course not because secretly every individual wants to be challenged. Wants to know they can survive in a continually changing world. There's a reason its called survival of the fittest. I don't know about you, but I'm here to change and become better than the person I left in yesterday. How about you Sis?
Alyssa's Perspective:
Okay, so this is a huge idea in today's society that doesn't actually have a place. I don't believe in the idea of perfection based on the fact of progression. In my eyes, perfection is an entity that society has placed in our minds as something we as humans need to achieve in our lives to be happy. In a way, perfection can be placed in many aspects of our lives as in, how you see yourself, how you see others and how others see you. As Nash stated, we judge, we have opinions, we have differences, and we can't help but compare ourselves to others in the community. This idea creates insecurities and jealousy due to so many people trying to reach the idea of a perfect life. Perfection is based on the idea of putting forth no effort and just being 'perfect,' which in reality isn't fair nor is it true. If we think of perfection in the eyes of a relationship, it cant be achieved, and if it does is it really 'perfect'? In a healthy relationship, one is supposed to be there for the other one in all situations and learn and grow together as a whole. If someone has a relationship where its considered 'perfect' with no sort of hardships, I find it hard to believe that both people are completely and emotionally committed.
Something I strongly believe in is that for one to succeed, they must work for it, how do you learn if it is everything you want is just given to you? My answer is you don't, in the world where one has achieved perfection means that they no longer move socially, economically or mentally from that mental state which again supports my idea that perfection isn't and shouldn't be achieved. Maybe it's me being the kind of person that constantly wants to grow, but I don't think I would ever want to reach society's 'perfection.'
Consensus:
Society might not be the reason to blame, but it has helped in adding the idea of perfection into our heads. Granted we all have to take the blame as well. A community, generation or even a race can't have a conclusion on a specific idea without all thinking about it from time to time. Perfection at least in our eyes isn't real. It's an insecurity that has been hidden behind a tiny voice saying that we aren't enough or that we are too good for the person next to us. So here's what we think should happen. Every time that tiny voice pops in your head whether it be in the dressing room in front of that mirror or when you see someone that's laughing more than you or even when you are just in your car and thinking alone. Shut. It. Off. Listen to these words right now. NO. ONE. IS. PERFECT. Those imperfections are what makes you, you. Bring that high and mighty ego down, look in the mirror and say "I am enough" and just live your life how you want it. Not what you think someone will want it. Let them live their life, and you live yours. I mean, after all, It Just Be like That!
Now that you know what our perspectives are, how about we hear what y'alls are? We are only two people on a planet with over 7 Billion humans. So let's hear y'alls perspectives! While Y'all are doing that, you could give us ideas to talk about too, doesn't matter what it is. If you have an opinion on it. I can guarantee so do we so, let those voices be heard!
Y’all are completely right! Perfection isn’t something that can be achieved. It’s also something that has been placed in our minds as an achievable goal. But we should all know the it isn’t and we shouldn’t like society’s ideals be pushed into ourselves. We need to start believeing in our own ideals and not let society dictate who we are.
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